Having a positive relationship with your parents
As you grow up your relationship with your parents starts to change. You're growing into a young man or woman and your parents are also growing older. They still care for you but are probably having as much difficulty as you are in adapting to your changing relationship.
- You are no longer totally dependent on them and you want to become even more independent.
- They are still responsible for your welfare and are trying to use their experience to guide you.
As a result there is often conflict. How you all handle this conflict is really important. Your parents will always be your parents so work hard to communicate and be prepared to compromise.
Here are a few tips to maintain a positive relationship with the people who love you most in all the world.
- Be respectful when discussing any areas of disagreement.
- Be willing to listen to your parent's view.
- Stay calm.
- Be non-blaming, don't accuse.
- Stick to the issue - don't get side tracked into other areas.
- Use a team approach to working out problems - work at it together, think about what you both want in common and work out together how you can get there.
- Use a problem solving model like this one:
- Decide together exactly what the problem is.
- Brainstorm the possible solutions - be open and creative.
- Think out the consequences of each possible solution.
- Choose one idea and do it.
- Did it work? If so, congratulate yourself and each other. If not, go back to step 2 and try another idea.
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Thanks for sharing this article here. I think it is important to maintain positive relationship with our parents as parents are the most important people in our lives. I think we need to be smart when we are in the disagreement as it can avoid the conflict. For example, we can stay calm and be silent to listen their view before we express our feelings to the issue we are talking about.
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